How to stop comparing yourself with others

We all know we shouldn’t compare ourselves to other people, we all know how pointless it is, how unhelpful it is. Yet we keep doing it. So is there anything we can do to stop it?

One of the most powerful ways I’ve found to help people with this is to work with them to develop their own plan in as much detail as possible, and to keep refining and retuning this when required. This helps keep you focused, grounded and committed.

Take what it is that makes you proud, what it is that makes you excited about the future, what it is that makes you want to get up each morning and turn this into your plan.

Ultimately you can track your ambition back to clear, focused steps that are manageable and achievable for you. No-one else, just you.

How does this help you to stop comparing yourself with others?

• Having your own plan means you can think about yourself in relation to your own version of success, not judge yourself against someone else’s achievements.

• Your plan acts as a reminder of your own goals when you need it. So what if someone else has just got promoted or their post has just gone viral? Take yourself back to your own plan and look at the progress you have made and what your next steps are instead.

• Your plan helps you navigate difficult decisions, reduces the self-doubt and second guessing that often holds people back

Ultimately this gives you:

Focus – Tune out the noise and distractions getting in your way

Certainty – Stop second guessing yourself and take action

Confidence – Stop comparing yourself to others, you know this is your journey