It’s very easy to get stuck in a rut. Very easy to feel like everything you’re doing is just a bit pointless and is getting you absolutely nowhere. This can look like procrastination loops, leaving things to the last minute then getting frustrated, a general lack of interest in your work and the belief that nothing you are doing or can do is going to get you out of this rut.
Why is this happening to me?
When we get stuck in a rut it can feel like everything is happening to us and there’s nothing we can do to make a difference.
Maybe you’ve tried several times before but you’ve not managed to find your way out, which leads to more frustration and even greater feelings of helplessness, hopelessness and yet more procrastinating.
Therefore, it is important to spend time looking at what it is that you can actually control in the situation and start taking your power back.
What will make me proud today?
A really helpful tool to use when you are stuck in a rut, endlessly procrastinating or feeling like life has got you down, is to ask yourself some really good questions.
One of my favourite questions is – “What can I do that will make me proud today?”.
Forget everyone else, just think about what will make YOU proud. For some people this might be getting out of bed and brushing your teeth. For others it might be presenting in a staff meeting even though it is terrifying. Or perhaps it is leaving work on time to help your child with their homework.
Forget your work task list or the things you haven’t done. Pick something each day that will make YOU proud.
But I hate my job so much, it’s totally meaningless!
Even if you hate your job, find it completely meaningless and your boss is horrible, I often find that delivering in a way that makes ME proud, to the best of my ability in that moment can make a huge difference to my personal self esteem and pride.
Even if you are longing to start your own business or go and live in the sun, making yourself proud by doing the best at what’s in front of you right now can be a game changer that then lifts you up to go and chase your dreams! Being the best employee you can be in this moment isn’t giving up on your dreams, it is helping to build them.
So don’t ignore what’s right in front of you – do it to the best of your ability, build some pride into your job and reap the rewards.
Remind yourself of what makes you feel proud
Once a day, every day, write down what you did that made you proud that day (or the day before)
Notice the feeling of pride in your body – what colour is it? Where is it? Is it moving? Is it solid? Is it glowing? Get really familiar with how it feels.
Do this everyday and your body will get so good at feeling proud, you’ll be able to conjure it up and feel good whenever you need to!